Monday, November 27, 2023

Maddy's 2023 Birthday

Darcy always plans her birthday yearly, including friends and family and a week of food and fun. Maddy prefers a more subdued celebration. Or, so she says. 

Which was good this year, considering she'd just returned from Ireland and restarted school after the holiday break. 


The three of us had her dinner of choice, a cake from a local bakery, and the opening of gifts. Then she had to work because a teacher's day does not end when they leave school. 



Happy Birthday, kiddo! You were our first love and the one who made us a family! We love you tons and are so proud of the woman you are!

Saturday, November 25, 2023

Shaun Cassidy and nostalgia

I receive updates from local theaters offering discounts, so imagine my surprise when an alert told me I could save on Shaun Cassidy tickets.

SHAUN CASSIDY?

The teen idol whose posters graced seventy-five percent of my bedroom walls in the late 70s? The actor who played Joe, one half of The Hardy Boys television show? 

I had no idea he was still singing. Or touring. As far as I knew, writing and producing television and Broadway shows was his thing. What forced him back to doing what he did at 18? Nostalgia? Age? 

I could relate, so I purchased a ticket. How could I not? While Cassidy wasn't my first concert (that was Kenny Rogers with opening act Crystal Gayle), he was the entertainer who led me, literally running and screaming, into my musical journey. 

It didn't start that way. I was more interested in television actors. My crush then was an actor named Lance Kerwin from a show called James at 15. It's where my first pen name, the one I use for this blog, originated. But my friends were diehard Cassidy fans, and when his tour announced a local date, Kelly and her sister were at the front of the ticket line. They insisted I get a ticket and that I would "forget all about Lance Kerwin" once I spent an evening with Shaun. 

They were right.

It didn't take long. The music to That's Rock n' Roll started. Lights shone on a white circle hoop, Shaun's red pantsuited silhouette danced behind it, and Kelly's sister sobbed hysterically. I had a brief moment of concerned wonder for her before Shaun tore through the paper to stand on stage in front of us, singing his hit. 


Girls rushed to the stage. We were in the front row for one minute, and suddenly, a sea of females stood between us and the stage. Security tried, but as quickly as they cleared the area, more took their place. It was a neverending revolving door, and all of them screamed. When I caught something Shaun threw, I don't remember what it was, maybe a sweatband from his wrist, but someone behind me snatched it from my fingers. It was utter chaos, and by the end of it all, I was shrieking and sobbing along with the mob.


From then on, my allowance and babysitting money went toward his single records, albums, and Tiger Beat magazine, where Shaun's centerfolds got tacked immediately to my bedroom walls. I joined my friends in watching every show and movie he starred in and made scrapbooks dedicated to him. 


Shaun Cassidy was touring at 65? Damn straight, I was going. I would've liked to have shared the experience with Kelly, but she didn't answer my text message, so I went alone.

Middle-aged men and women packed the theater. The men surprised me, and I couldn't decide if they were fans or forced to accompany their wives/girlfriends. I'd asked Tom if he wanted to go. It went like this.

Tom: "David Cassidy?"

Me: "No, he's dead. Shaun Cassidy."

Tom: "I don't know who that is."

Me: "He's a teen idol from the '70s and '80s."

Tom: "No, I do not want to go."

He would've enjoyed it, even not knowing Shaun. The show, titled The Magic of a Midnight Sky, a line from his hit song, Hey Deanie, was a holiday evening of music, stories, nostalgia, and fun. Cassidy's writing chops were displayed with the script, interweaving personal tales of his teen idol days with his famous family. His shock that we paid to see him was genuine, and I got the sense that while that time in his life wasn't all rainbows and unicorns, he needed this tour to close some unfinished business. 

Before it started, two beefy security guards came down the aisles to stand on either side of the stage, and I burst out laughing, thinking of witnessing a repeat of my last Shaun Cassidy. What would a group of screaming fifty+-year-old women look like?


Cassidy had a piano/keyboardist and a guitarist, who, when I saw him, made me wonder if he had a clue what Cassidy had once been to the audience. It turns out might have. Cole is Cassidy's nephew. 


Cassidy came on stage less dramatic than my first experience, although after hearing him tell stories of the hoop, incorporating that would be a great laugh if he continues touring. He walked on stage, playing a guitar and singing a Christmas carol before going straight into That's Rock n' Roll, causing the woman next to me to lean over and say, "Wow, does that bring back memories."


He played the guitar and the piano. Told great stories and sang all sorts of music from Christmas carols to his hits to Broadway songs. He joked before singing a recent song that his wife said no one wanted to hear new songs, but he gave it to us anyway and then, just in case we hated it, delivered another oldie.

The show ended too soon. Much like Cassidy did in 1980. Radio was changing, and no one was buying his music. He thought he'd lay low for a while and then return, but instead, he walked away. An opportunity to do what he really wanted to do--write--arrived. He took it and never looked back. As for us, we entered high school, crushing on boys in our classes instead of on teen idols. I don't have a distinct memory of changing my walls, but they went from Cassidy to Tom Selleck, and my music tastes veered toward Billy Joel, Bruce Springsteen, and, later, country music.


But that's the thing with time. What was once out becomes in. Age creeps up and brings one full circle. Suddenly a distant memory rears its head and grabs your attention. The past means more. We search for answers to questions we never had back then.

Everything about this performance was different, yet familiar. Cassidy felt it, too. He teared up often, thought before he spoke, and added tidbits when they came to him. It was over too quickly and driving home, I was sorry I couldn't have asked him out for a cup of coffee. It would've been lovely to have had more time to catch up.


Thursday, November 23, 2023

Thanksgiving 2023

Tom wanted the china. The kids and I vetoed that. They don't like washing it. I had already bought these large, festive plates. The table was set and waiting two days before. Tom complained everything would be dusty by then.


The men and Darcy got up early on Thanksgiving morning to run the annual Turkey Trot. Darcy beat them all. We had breakfast and mimosas while watching the Macy's Thanksgiving Day parade, and then Nikita and I watched football.


We kept our new tradition of Honey Baked Ham instead of turkey. Oleg cooked our sides while Nikita and I played sous chef and dishwasher. During halftime, I went outside and washed the front porch and the kitchen windows, a job I've had on my list for weeks. 


We did our annual thankful things first. Dinner was quiet because we were hungry, but after filling our bellies, we played two rounds of a board game and laughed ourselves silly. 


We missed Maddy. She's in Ireland, but she'll be home tomorrow, and we saved her a plate. 

Happy Thanksgiving, everyone!

Saturday, November 18, 2023

The Write Spice retreat #2

The girls planned a New York Broadway vacation and invited their parents. But we can't leave Elliot, so I volunteered to stay behind. Tom works hard. He deserves a four-day getaway.

And an empty house meant a place for a writer's retreat.

We had thought we wouldn't have another one before next year, but when I realized this could work, we went full tilt on planning. There was an agenda, assignments for tasks and food, a Secret Santa exchange, and a call out for blow-up mattresses. All I had to do, besides my workshops, was clean and rearrange some furniture in the Steelers room for the air beds. Oh, and decorate for Christmas in November.

Them: "You'll put up a tree, right?"

Me: "I will not. That's way too early because we don't do fake Christmas trees. But I have a pitiful fake tree in the corner of my living room with lights on it and a couple of ornaments left over from Christmas 2023."

Them: "We should decorate it with pictures of sexy men."

Well, that I could do. 

I used pictures from my Daily Hunk calendar and Christmas ribbon, wrapping the base with holiday paper. It was a hit, although my Walmart guy wanted to know where his pic was on the tree.


One by one, writers arrived, and inch by inch, my refrigerator filled, the kitchen table grew crowded, and the countertops disappeared. We were not going to starve, that was for sure.




Three of us had bedrooms. The others were on blow-up mattresses and my futon in the Steelers room. On Friday, we celebrated Christmas. We officially formed our group on Saturday, opened social media and email accounts, and held workshops. Two of us are football fans, so we had the Redzone running in the background on Sunday while we worked. We ate from sunrise to bedtime, and cocktails flowed. Sleep was minimal. 




There is something about finding your people that makes the future brighter. That it came at the end of the year?

That's a sign. 

2024 is the year I make this a career!

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Saturday, November 04, 2023

Hello November

October was a heavy month of hurt and realization, and one that I fought for several weeks. 


My brother and SIL arrived at the end of the month. Rusty played in a golf tournament locally. Susan relaxed and supported him from beneath an umbrella on the beach. We met for dinner the first night. The last time I saw him was in July 2022. He looked good, and I'm not just saying that because he bought me dinner.


They stayed at our Wyndham on Clearwater Beach, and I joined Susan on the beach for a day before we grabbed a bite poolside. 


The next night, I took her to dinner at a restaurant neither of us had tried. I didn't see my brother again until their last night. They were supposed to stay with us on that day, but Wyndham gave them another night, so they spent the day doing tourist things and we saw them for dinner.

They like to eat.



For me, the visit kicked into hearing what I'd tried so hard to reject. Not easy, but I've had a week and a half to internalize it all. I'm blessed, life is good, and by golly, I have a core group that loves me unconditionally. Here's to letting go of wants that won't be fulfilled.

Not a bad thing to come to peace with before my birthday.